You can see my foot in today's picture. (One of my two.)
Today I read a pretty good interview with Melinda Gates in Elle magazine. She spent some time working with women in Tanzania, and told a wonderful story about how "real men carry water". A newly married couple lived in an arid region, so the wife had to walk 21 km to get water. After the birth of her first child, she decided to move back home, to an easier climate, where she could raise her child actively, rather than spend her time carrying water. To keep her with him, the husband started carrying the water instead. His friends mocked him, since it was woman's work. Then they came round, and started carrying water too. They got sick of it though, and realised how dangerous the journey was, so they built four huge
waterpans close to the village. Now the water is only half a mile away.
If something hurts enough, you change it. The men didn't fancy carrying water for 21km, so they did the sensible thing, and solved the problem. Why hadn't the women done that already, and solved the problem for themselves long ago?
Maybe the answer is that they've been carrying water like that for generations. Their mothers all had to do it, so why shouldn't they? They accepted that pain as a reality of life. How many other things do women accept, perhaps unknowingly? If a man were in their position, would they endure those things?
Another answer might be that the women lacked the economic and political influence to make the change. Maybe they don't have the same access to assets like land and livestock with which to make trades, or maybe they don't have the chance to forge relationships with influential people (who are probably men).
The problem with the water was solved, but how many other problems like these still persist for women in Africa? Gaining the empathy of African men is an important step. The water-carrying story is a great example of men walking in the shoes of women, and then recognising and helping in their plight. Hopefully this will keep happening, and hopefully women will gain the ability to change things on their own too.
At
SAAS, we help this process by sponsoring the education of students, many of whom are women, by providing support and counselling, and by helping graduating students to get jobs. This is especially important for our female graduates, who develop in confidence and strength with the ability to provide for their families and make better lives for themselves.
Total time: 5 hours, 55 minutes
Total distance: 68.47 miles